Blog

Additional Information for Chapter 4, page 47 Rejection is painful. The long-term consequences are even worse than the initial sensation. The pain and shock that strikes such a horrifying blow can reverberate for weeks, months, and even years into the future. It has the power to emotionally cripple people for the remainder of their lives.Read more

Additional Information for Chapter 4, page 47 We first consider various definitions of violation as suggested by web dictionaries: misdemeanor: a crime less serious than a felony an act that disregards an agreement or a right trespass: entry to another’s property without right or permission irreverence: a disrespectful act rape: the crime of forcing aRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 4, page 49 The Compatibility Code provides a fairly complete description of how to deal with anger.  The context is actually anger due to a broken relationship.  The model presented, however, works for any type of anger regardless of cause. There are people whose anger is so extreme, so explosive thatRead more

Additional Information on Chapter 4, pages 51 to 53 A broader discussion of the nature of devastation was included in an earlier prescript in this chapter. The focus here is on recovery. In the previous discussion the ten steps to recovery from devastation are listed with the same brief discussion provided in The Compatibility Code. WeRead more

More Information for Chapter 4, pages 47, and 55-57 Three and a half pages in the Compatibility Code deal with the issue of Jealousy-what is it, when is it inappropriate, how do you deal with it. Since the introduction to the issue of jealousy is well explored in the book we devote our attention hereRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 4, page 58 One of the better on-line sources of information on this topic is found at Psych Central, particularly an article written by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. This is the link: http://psychcentral.com/therapst.htm What follows is a list of items you should consider in choosing a therapist. Some of these are includedRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 4, page 60 The Compatibility Code identifies in a few paragraphs what exactly we’re talking about here: It is establishing a level of emotional health and stability that allows you to negotiate the ups and downs of life without “crashing” and make wise relational decision even if it tough, painful choices areRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 4, page 55 Additional ResourcesOn being emotionally divorced: http://www.womensonlinemagazine.com/family/are-you-emotionally-divorced/ Chapter 4 Resources Prescripts for Relationship Health Decisions and Intense Feelings Jealousy Abandonment Anger Emotional Germs Cynicism Devastation Guilt Pain and Need Powerlessness Rejection Violation Anger Resolution Process Recovery from Devastation Jealousy Management Professional Help: Choosing a Therapist, Expectation, Procedures Emotional ImmuneRead more