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Additional Information for Chapter 7, page 98 The issue of this prescript, How to use the Ideal Other profile, is largely a compilation of instructions in The Compatibility Code and information already provided in other prescripts from Chapter 7. The first prescript of Chapter 7 provides a list of qualities to assist you in filling out theRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 7, page 98 Illustrations of the principle of power of the subconscious Intrinsic in this discussion is the power of visualization. One of the extraordinary (but not uncommon) stories of the power of visualization comes from the 1960s and 1970s. Major James Nesmeth was a combat pilot who flew missions overRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 8, page 105 Identification The Compatibility Code provides two sources of disqualifiers: Disqualifiers based on the findings of research psychology, and disqualifiers that are personally determined. We spend our time here addressing the first type—disqualifiers already determined by research.  The reason is essentially twofold: Every one of the 19 disqualifiers listedRead more

Why test?  It’s important and it’s fun.  It is important because you discover vital knowledge about yourself and your partner.  It is fun because, unless you are really badly mismatched, it opens up a fascinating world of discovery about both of you. Some material you will already know.  But typically there will be some insightsRead more

Additional Information on Chapter 9, page 121 We make thousands or errors of judgment during our lifetime, but most of them don’t matter because they are associated with trivial issues or have little influence on our lives.  If, for instance, I think some bozo is a jerk and I am wrong, what difference does it make?  IRead more

Additional Information on Chapter 9, Pages 124-130 The Compatibility Code has several paragraphs describing dynamics of each of these issues (pp. 124-135) and thus lays a good foundation for expansion on these ideas here.  The focus of this prescript is to take the areas discussed in the book one by one and present more of an applied twist, that is,Read more

Additional Information for Chapter 9, Page 135 We begin our discussion of boundaries by stating flatly that we will expand this section in the future. I discuss the boundaries in the pages that follow based on my understanding of and experience with the topic.  Following the presentation, we suggest two books that address the topicRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 10, Pages 143-150 The Compatibility Code goes to great lengths in Chapter 10 to make clear how the process of matching essence qualities works. Recognize that this process is designed to encourage discussion and thus a greater understanding of each other. We rate the content of Chapter 10 and the instructions contained theRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 10, pages 157-160 On pages 157-160 in The Compatibility Code a discussion addresses the issue of resolving essence quality differences. These are also the 3 pages where we present the 12 scenarios, actually 6 pairs of scenarios in which one couple is able to resolve differences and the other couple is unable toRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 11, pages 169-175 Early in Chapter 11 of The Compatibility Code the issue of Red Flags is introduced. We identify three different types of red flags. Sometimes red flags are due to a mismatch of personal characteristics or personal qualities. Sometimes red flags are due personal defects—issues discussed in Chapter 4 (dealing with emotional germs) and Chapter 5Read more