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Additional Information for Chapter 11, page 175 Expectations are referred to only fleetingly in The Compatibility Code; however, few issues sound the death knell of a marriage more certainly than unfulfilled expectations. One of the complaints heard most frequently by marriage counselors is, “my needs are not being met.”The oft-heard lament is typically translated “what I expectedRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 11, pages 182-185 Here we consider risk factors (or red flags) that contrast with mismatches or personal-defect red flags.  These are typically situational issues, which are not intrinsic to either partner. Three of these issues are discussed in some detail in The Compatibility Code: one or both partners coming from a brokenRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 12, Page 192 Introduction and the 2 x 2 model In The Compatibility Code three full pages are devoted to describe and explain the give-give relationship. This model represents a foundation for successful relationships.  We will not reproduce here the text from those pages (go buy the book if you haven’tRead more

Additional Information for Chapter 12, page 195 As Elizabeth and I have worked with this material over the years we have discussed whether matching essence qualities or shared passionate purpose represents the greatest single factor in marital compatibility.  The discussion is moot, however, because shared passions are going to be among your essence qualities.  InRead more